My dog listens to me, but not my husband, why is that?
It is not uncommon for a dog to behave better for one family member over the others. The reasons for this can be varied but it can be remedied by ensuring everyone spends some time on training and commands and that boundaries and discipline are consistent.
Often it is the ‘man of the house’ who has the most control over the dog. This can be down to their bearing and stature but often it is simply that they are stricter than female owners and the dog knows they can’t get away with as much! However, the reverse can be also be true.
Getting your dog to listen to your husband and obey his commands is not about him ‘dominating’ them or forcing them to respond to him but by building up a positive and close relationship with them. Often, they respond more simply to the person they spend more time with and are more used to.
Make sure he is taking an equal part in looking after your pet; feeding, walking and grooming. Get him to work on training with them, so they become used to taking his orders and following his instructions. Speak to your husband about how you work with your dog and make sure you are both following the same pattern.
Also, make sure that you both expect the same standards of behaviour and are consistent! It won’t do any good if your husband lets the dog up onto the sofa for cuddles if you don’t or if he lets them get away with behaviour that you won’t allow.
A dog responding to one partner over another is not about them ‘snubbing’ you, it is usually simply down to the fact that one person is their main care giver and together they have a better relationship and rapport. So, evening out the balance and both of you spending an equal amount of time with your pet, will often help your dog to learn to listen to both of you! | 04.21.16 @ 13:22