My dog listens to me, but not my husband, why is that?

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It is not uncommon for a dog to behave better for one family member over the others. The reasons for this can be varied but it can be remedied by ensuring everyone spends some time on training and commands and that boundaries and discipline are consistent.

Often it is the ‘man of the house’ who has the most control over the dog. This can be down to their bearing and stature but often it is simply that they are stricter than female owners and the dog knows they can’t get away with as much! However, the reverse can be also be true.

Getting your dog to listen to your husband and obey his commands is not about him ‘dominating’ them or forcing them to respond to him but by building up a positive and close relationship with them. Often, they respond more simply to the person they spend more time with and are more used to.

Make sure he is taking an equal part in looking after your pet; feeding, walking and grooming. Get him to work on training with them, so they become used to taking his orders and following his instructions. Speak to your husband about how you work with your dog and make sure you are both following the same pattern.

Also, make sure that you both expect the same standards of behaviour and are consistent! It won’t do any good if your husband lets the dog up onto the sofa for cuddles if you don’t or if he lets them get away with behaviour that you won’t allow.

A dog responding to one partner over another is not about them ‘snubbing’ you, it is usually simply down to the fact that one person is their main care giver and together they have a better relationship and rapport. So, evening out the balance and both of you spending an equal amount of time with your pet, will often help your dog to learn to listen to both of you! | 04.21.16 @ 13:22
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$commenter.renderDisplayableName() — {comment} | 04.25.19 @ 02:35
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Answered by melaniejanerich
In my case, I did not choose the dog. He was my husbands choice, but it was me that had to view him and accept him. He was a rescue. I made 2 trips to BDH. Once to view and 2nd to bring him home. He was a nightmare. Exceptionally clever, harness and seat belts off within 10 minutes of being in car. I have spent thousands of pounds working one to one with a dog trainer, only to be told he is a hopeless case and no longer welcome. I worked with him at home, got sit, stay, down, wait, leave. I’ve even managed to get him to the dog groomer. He loves her and being groomed. By the way he’s a German Shepard x giant malamute. He weighs in at 47 kilo, I weigh 53. I have the Hatfield forest on my doorstep and have NT membership. I take him everyday of the week, I arrive about 8.55 Monday to Friday on my own, I have a way of getting him out of my estate car and walk for at least an hour each day. He cannot be allowed off his 8mtr lead. He does a deaf one. My problem is at home and in the car, my husband is his king. If the husband is out in the garden, the dog has to be there. I take him out in the car not a murmur. Moment my husband gets in to go for a walk, he cry’s, wanders the boot and behaves badly when walked, turns into a complete, not going to finish that it. | 01.13.19 @ 17:55
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